March 2015 marks a year since my vision suddenly turned
double in one eye, and this whole saga began. It also marks seven months of my
new lifestyle, which has now become my new normal. Whenever I tell people for
the first time about my diet (often some poor person responsible for an event’s
dietary requirements) the response I hear most often is “what can you eat?!” However,
I can honestly say it’s become totally normal to me now, and doesn’t feel like
an effort at all. If you’d told me a year ago that I’d be living my life free
from gluten, dairy, caffeine and booze – and not even finding it a chore- I
would have laughed into my large glass of Sauvignon and plate of cheesy nachos!
So I’ve been reflecting on how I made such a big change.
Human beings are capable of change, it’s one of the brilliant things about
human nature. However, whilst making a temporary change is relatively easy,
sustainable change is much harder. I know this because much of my working life
has been about helping people (children when I was teaching, then adults in my
work as a consultant) learn and develop by forming new habits. If you want to
make a sustained change in your life, you need to pick up new habits that
reinforce the change you want to make, and let go of negative habits that are
obstacles to the change you want to make. We can help ourselves to do this by
making it easier for ourselves to keep going with the new habits, and removing
the temptation for old habits. For example, if you’re trying to form a new
habit of going to the gym every morning, apparently the easiest way to do this
is to sleep in your gym clothes for the first month! This makes it harder for
you to turn off the alarm and skip the gym (can’t say I’ve tried this one myselfJ)
Here’s three of my new habits that have made a huge
difference to my life:
Breakfast
- Old routine – I used to grab breakfast on the run to the office, and typically it consisted of a large latte and a croissant, or porridge and honey if I was trying to be healthy!
- New routine – Now I always make time to eat breakfast at home, even if I’m up at 5am for an early start in London. I have warm water with lemon (which kick starts the digestive system), followed by Barleylife supplement drink (good for creating an alkaline environment in which disease cannot thrive), followed by either a smoothie or gluten-free toast, marmite and banana. Plus a big glass of water with my various supplements. Doing this means I start the day in a structured manner and on a full stomach, setting me up for a positive day. I also feel pleased with myself that I’ve started the day on a healthy note, and saved the £5 I would otherwise have spent in Pret!
Commuting
- Old routine – I used to live in London on the Victoria line and only had a few stops to my office but it was hellish because the tubes were so crowded. I would attempt to read the Metro whilst crammed up against strangers, and would typically arrive at work feeling grumpier and less energised than when I left home.
- New routine – Now I live in the Essex countryside I have a far longer commute but I spend at least some of it meditating. I time my trains and position on the platform so I get a seat, shut my eyes and do a breathing exercise or body scan exercise. It’s a great use of commuting time, takes my attention away from the crowding and constant announcements of delays (which are well beyond my control so not worth me worrying about) and it means I arrive at work feeling refreshed and energised.
Saturday nights
- Old routine – I used to make the most of London nightlife, and drink / dance the night away. Whereas the rest of the country might spend weekends like this in their 20s, there is something about London which means it’s totally normal for people to being living this way well into their 30s. I loved the social side of it, but hated the hangovers!
- New routine – Now I spend my Saturday nights mostly at home, at the moment occupied by DIY / renovation activities! If I do go on a night out, I’ll be drinking water out of a wine glass (there is something psychologically nicer about that then a pint glass!) and nothing could ever stop me dancing! Giving up booze has been one of the toughest changes for me; not for the alcohol itself but more for the social connotations and handling the way I feel in response to the assumptions people tend to make about someone who doesn’t drink (maybe I’ll write more on that another time). On the positive side, not drinking takes away the temptation to ‘treat’ problems or bad days with booze – it’s taught me to address the problem instead. I definitely feel significantly healthier for a life without drink, and I’m grateful for a good 15 years spent partying hard! Seven months without a hangover is a wonderful feeling J
The next habit I need to try and form is exercise – I feel
so much better when I’ve been for a run, but it’s one habit I’ve found hard to
make stick! xxx
